5 Unusual Ways Listening Better Will Immediately Improve Your Relationships

5 Unusual Ways Listening Better Will Immediately Improve Your Relationships

If you’re like most people I know, you want to be a good listener. Listening well is not always easy to do, especially with all the distractions that constantly compete for our attention.

Even after fourteen years of practicing the art of listening—opening my Bible to read the Word and hear the quiet whisper of the Lord as He then speaks to my heart—it still is a challenge for me to be still. It’s difficult to turn off those internal and external distractions that cause me to lose focus. But I’ve found that this is often the key I need, so that I can listen well.

This devotional, which is included in my book Powerful Moments in the Presence of God, was impressed to me as I practiced being still so that I could listen to God. It’s a message I’ve returned to many times…I guess because I need this reminder often, so that I can put it into practice. What I find most interesting is that when I am intentional to listen closely, it not only improves my relationship with God, but also with others.



Five Unusual Ways Listening Better Will Immediately Improve Your Relationships—With God and With Others

You will receive deeper truth—revelation from the Bible that will impact your life.

You will become sensitized to the needs of those around you.

You will change your behavior.

You will learn and grow.

You will draw near.


Each of these concepts build on the other. It’s so cool!

If you want to immediately improve your relationships with others, take some time to find out what God has to say through His word. He’ll show you what you need to know. Getting His perspective is the best way to sensitize yourself to the needs of the people in your life. Knowing what He says—and being willing to put it into action—will cause your behavior to change. You’ll learn new ways of relating, causing growth in your relationships. Best of all, this is the most effective way to put into practice the art of active listening, bringing you close to those you love.

Question:  Do you find it difficult to listen to God? If so, what are the biggest challenges you face in listening? I’d love to hear your comments or insights. Feel free to join the conversation in the comments section below.



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2 Comments on "5 Unusual Ways Listening Better Will Immediately Improve Your Relationships"

4 years 9 months ago

My life is too busy. I know it. God knows it. But it takes time to slow down. Bob & I are working on it. For now I listen to bible books while traveling.

4 years 9 months ago

Vickey, what a great idea! Thanks for sharing. I find what works best for me is to get up just before dawn. The trick is to remind myself that I want to do this the night before. That way, when I’m groggy in the morning I can’t argue with myself because I have already made up my mind…I just need to remember it’s what I want. 🙂